pelhahnu
bee-the-gatekeeper:

meajoraswrath:

xdominoe:

queenofthesouthernisles:

I just LOVE the animation here. The part with just their hands looks real. And I love the way Gothel’s fingers go from motherly gentle touch to creepy and evil. Beautiful

#I really apprecciate this gif#because when you’re in an abusive relationship often nothing seems wrong until you try to stand up for yourself#that loving pat tranforms into a claw when she defends herself#but really it was a claw all along(via)

Tangled actually did a better job capturing an emotionally abusive relationship than most other things I’ve seen. And I don’t just mean when Gothel kidnapped her and lied to her about who she was. It was everything. She kept Rapunzel with her by cutting people out of her life and destroying her self-esteem. She puts her down and doesn’t allow her to feel confident at all. Recall when Rapunzel states she thinks Flynn likes her, Gothel blows her off with, “But just look at you. You think he’s impressed?” She also constantly makes Rapunzel feel responsible for everything that goes wrong. When they get in the argument in the beginning, Gothel victimizes herself and does her best to make Rapunzel feel guilty for asking her for a simple favor. It’s so textbook. And immediately after anything, she treats Rapunzel by promising her favourite soup and reminding her, “I love you most” to reel her back into that false sense of security.
And back to the animation of how she didn’t notice the maternal and loving hand was actually a malicious claw until she realised she was in an abusive relationship. Basically, Tangled is a really important movie, and the fact Gothel is so familiar to those of us who have experienced abuse is good because children are going to watch this and look for Gothels in their own lives.

Another point… this highlights why everyone needs to learn not to be nice all the time. I don’t mean be deliberately rude or disrespectful. I mean that you don’t brush off every comment, you don’t make yourself totally accommodating, you learn to say no… because there will be times when you’ll meet someone who seems nice and yet it can take surprisingly little to reveal their true colors.
Predatory types, the people who want to do this to someone, look for the weak link, the person who won’t fight back. All predators look for the one least likely to fight back, the one alone, the needy one. Even a small show of self-will can be very upsetting to them… I’ve been cussed out by guys just for not stroking their ego. Yeah, just that. My friend sat and giggled at everything this one guy said (and he was a smart-mouthed prick) and he stuck to her like glue. And as we walked outside he cussed me out. I was gobsmacked then but now I see it as a great compliment… and I see the weakness in him. Scary… but I feel very lucky.
Oh, as for the friend… she was one of those rare special people who is totally nice and polite, but never for a second fell for the crap. She’s just very civil. But that also meant she had to tolerate him longer than I did…

bee-the-gatekeeper:

meajoraswrath:

xdominoe:

queenofthesouthernisles:

I just LOVE the animation here. The part with just their hands looks real. And I love the way Gothel’s fingers go from motherly gentle touch to creepy and evil. Beautiful

(via)

Tangled actually did a better job capturing an emotionally abusive relationship than most other things I’ve seen. And I don’t just mean when Gothel kidnapped her and lied to her about who she was. It was everything. She kept Rapunzel with her by cutting people out of her life and destroying her self-esteem. She puts her down and doesn’t allow her to feel confident at all. Recall when Rapunzel states she thinks Flynn likes her, Gothel blows her off with, “But just look at you. You think he’s impressed?” She also constantly makes Rapunzel feel responsible for everything that goes wrong. When they get in the argument in the beginning, Gothel victimizes herself and does her best to make Rapunzel feel guilty for asking her for a simple favor. It’s so textbook. And immediately after anything, she treats Rapunzel by promising her favourite soup and reminding her, “I love you most” to reel her back into that false sense of security.

And back to the animation of how she didn’t notice the maternal and loving hand was actually a malicious claw until she realised she was in an abusive relationship. Basically, Tangled is a really important movie, and the fact Gothel is so familiar to those of us who have experienced abuse is good because children are going to watch this and look for Gothels in their own lives.

Another point… this highlights why everyone needs to learn not to be nice all the time. I don’t mean be deliberately rude or disrespectful. I mean that you don’t brush off every comment, you don’t make yourself totally accommodating, you learn to say no… because there will be times when you’ll meet someone who seems nice and yet it can take surprisingly little to reveal their true colors.

Predatory types, the people who want to do this to someone, look for the weak link, the person who won’t fight back. All predators look for the one least likely to fight back, the one alone, the needy one. Even a small show of self-will can be very upsetting to them… I’ve been cussed out by guys just for not stroking their ego. Yeah, just that. My friend sat and giggled at everything this one guy said (and he was a smart-mouthed prick) and he stuck to her like glue. And as we walked outside he cussed me out. I was gobsmacked then but now I see it as a great compliment… and I see the weakness in him. Scary… but I feel very lucky.

Oh, as for the friend… she was one of those rare special people who is totally nice and polite, but never for a second fell for the crap. She’s just very civil. But that also meant she had to tolerate him longer than I did…

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Get to Know Me Uncomfortably Well

  • 1. What is you middle name?
  • 2. How old are you?
  • 3. What is your birthday?
  • 4. What is your zodiac sign?
  • 5. What is your favorite color?
  • 6. What's your lucky number?
  • 7. Do you have any pets?
  • 8. Where are you from?
  • 9. How tall are you?
  • 10. What shoe size are you?
  • 11. How many pairs of shoes do you own?
  • 12. What was your last dream about?
  • 13. What talents do you have?
  • 14. Are you psychic in any way?
  • 15. Favorite song?
  • 16. Favorite movie?
  • 17. Who would be your ideal partner?
  • 18. Do you want children?
  • 19. Do you want a church wedding?
  • 20. Are you religious?
  • 21. Have you ever been to the hospital?
  • 22. Have you ever got in trouble with the law?
  • 23. Have you ever met any celebrities?
  • 24. Baths or showers?
  • 25. What color socks are you wearing?
  • 26. Have you ever been famous?
  • 27. Would you like to be a big celebrity?
  • 28. What type of music do you like?
  • 29. Have you ever been skinny dipping?
  • 30. How many pillows do you sleep with?
  • 31. What position do you usually sleep in?
  • 32. How big is your house?
  • 33. What do you typically have for breakfast?
  • 34. Have you ever fired a gun?
  • 35. Have you ever tried archery?
  • 36. Favorite clean word?
  • 37. Favorite swear word?
  • 38. What's the longest you've ever gone without sleep?
  • 39. Do you have any scars?
  • 40. Have you ever had a secret admirer?
  • 41. Are you a good liar?
  • 42. Are you a good judge of character?
  • 43. Can you do any other accents other than your own?
  • 44. Do you have a strong accent?
  • 45. What is your favorite accent?
  • 46. What is your personality type?
  • 47. What is your most expensive piece of clothing?
  • 48. Can you curl your tongue?
  • 49. Are you an innie or an outie?
  • 50. Left or right handed?
  • 51. Are you scared of spiders?
  • 52. Favorite food?
  • 53. Favorite foreign food?
  • 54. Are you a clean or messy person?
  • 55. Most used phrased?
  • 56. Most used word?
  • 57. How long does it take for you to get ready?
  • 58. Do you have much of an ego?
  • 59. Do you suck or bite lollipops?
  • 60. Do you talk to yourself?
  • 61. Do you sing to yourself?
  • 62. Are you a good singer?
  • 63. Biggest Fear?
  • 64. Are you a gossip?
  • 65. Best dramatic movie you've seen?
  • 66. Do you like long or short hair?
  • 67. Can you name all 50 states of America?
  • 68. Favorite school subject?
  • 69. Extrovert or Introvert?
  • 70. Have you ever been scuba diving?
  • 71. What makes you nervous?
  • 72. Are you scared of the dark?
  • 73. Do you correct people when they make mistakes?
  • 74. Are you ticklish?
  • 75. Have you ever started a rumor?
  • 76. Have you ever been in a position of authority?
  • 77. Have you ever drank underage?
  • 78. Have you ever done drugs?
  • 79. Who was your first real crush?
  • 80. How many piercings do you have?
  • 81. Can you roll your Rs?"
  • 82. How fast can you type?
  • 83. How fast can you run?
  • 84. What color is your hair?
  • 85. What color is your eyes?
  • 86. What are you allergic to?
  • 87. Do you keep a journal?
  • 88. What do your parents do?
  • 89. Do you like your age?
  • 90. What makes you angry?
  • 91. Do you like your own name?
  • 92. Have you already thought of baby names, and if so what are they?
  • 93. Do you want a boy a girl for a child?
  • 94. What are you strengths?
  • 95. What are your weaknesses?
  • 96. How did you get your name?
  • 97. Were your ancestors royalty?
  • 98. Do you have any scars?
  • 99. Color of your bedspread?
  • 100. Color of your room?
pelhahnu

xasteriia:

f3mc:

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this is me. jonesy and my akane owari cosplay wip

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THIS. IS NOT ME

THIS PERSON JUST TOOK MY AKANE PICS AND GIFS FROM MY IRL ASK BLOG AND USED THEM FOR THEIR OKCUPID

I AM SIXTEEN YEARS OLD AND USING MY FACE /IS NOT OKAY/ FOR A DATING SITE OF ALL PLACES

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please if you use okcupid please report this person because i literally got so uncomfortable and rePULSED i deleted my blog i’m fucking.